This list of sexual terminology and definitions aims to provide clear and detailed explanations of various sexual activities, preferences, and practices encompassing a wide range of topics.

The terms are defined to inform and educate readers about the nuances and variations of each activity, including safety considerations, the dynamics involved, and the potential physical and emotional implications.

Whether you are seeking to understand specific sexual behaviors, exploring new experiences, or aiming to enhance communication with partners, this glossary serves as a valuable resource for gaining a deeper understanding of diverse sexual expressions.

Air Tight

A sexual group activity where a recipient has all their available holes filled by penises or phallic objects operated by other people. This is mostly used in reference to people with a vagina as they will need three people to fill the mouth, anus and vagina. Often there are more people available to also use both of the recipient’s hands at the same time, however this is not always the case. This can be an activity during an orgy or gang bang.

Anal Sex

The act of having penetrative or oral sex with an anus using a penis or phallic shaped object like a strap on, fingers or tongue. Oral sex with the anus is sometimes known as anilingus where as anal penetration using fingers is usually referred to as anal fingering. Most people tend to use the term anal sex to refer to the penetration of the anus by another person using movements mostly associated with sexual intercourse but one could consider any form of stimulation and/or penetration activity with an anus part of the umbrella term of “anal sex”. The use of a penis or another phallic shape object to facilitate anal sex does not change the act, anal sex is enjoyed people of all genders and orientations. Where anal sex is predominantly between a male bottom and a female top using a strap on, it is usually considered pegging. Since the lining of the anus is very tender and can tear easily, it is usually recommended to use lots of lube and to take things slowly when exploring anal penetration. Being careful with the width of your insertions (start small and let the person move themselves towards the insertion), using protective gloves and trimming your finger nails (or putting small cotton balls behind your nails inside your gloves) are also good steps to take.

Painal: A form of sadism play where the goal is to cause pain to the receiver as a result of anal sex. This is sometimes combined with humiliation or submission. Pain may be caused by the receiver tensing before penetration, a large phallic object being used for penetration without stretching up or the sex being very vigorous. It is commonly used as a category of porn but may also be enjoyed by some masochists. This is often considered risky play due to the risk of tearing the lining of the anus.

Blowbang

A version of a gangbang where the people in focus will only perform blowjobs on participants. The group of participants is at least 4 people, but can also be a lot larger than that. There is likely a single person being focused on as the receiver of a blowjob, but with larger groups more people can be focused on as the receiver. Gangbangs tend to have more options for people to participate in at the same time while focusing on a single person than blowbangs do. Often this is combined with facials from the different participants.

Breeding

A form of sexual play involving impregnating someone, being impregnated or conceiving a child. Some people may also fantasize about non-human impregnation (with partners like aliens or monsters) and use toys like ovipositors to simulate egg laying. Related sexual activities often include Creampies.

Bukkake

A sexual act in which several men ejaculate onto one person.

Car Play

Having an affinity or desire to pleasure yourself or others in or on a motor vehicle. Usually car play is focused on sexual intercourse, self masturbation and oral sex but it may also include making out, flashing or driving naked too.

Creampie

When one person ejaculates inside (or directly onto) another person’s anus or vagina.

Cunnilingus

The oral act of applying sexual stimulation to a vulva using the lips or tongue. Often focused on the clitoris, but also stimulating other parts of the vulva.

Cuntification

The the art and process of coaching and training a straight male or masculine sub to identify as a dickless woman and consider their asses as an alternative to pussy for sex. Often they are encouraged to offer their anuses for sex to others as part of their service/role. Can be related to Castration play, feminisation or to those identifying as a sissy.

Deepthroat

Oral sex where a penis or other phallic object is taken deeply into the mouth. Often the aim is to put as much of it into the mouth as possible or to attempt to swallow it into the throat past the gag reflex (depending on the length). The feeling of the throat on a recipient comes from the tightness of the pharynx and can enhance the sensation of a blow job. In some cases deep-throating is part of an activity called face fucking, where the recipient takes control of the depth of the blowjob and pushes themselves into the throat of the giver. By some, a deepthroat is consider the highest form of blowjob. Partially due to the challenge the giver may experience with overcoming the gag reflex, but also due to the myth that was created by the 1972 porn movie “Deep Throat”. However in reality opinions are varied and there is no clear answer if it feels better or not (source) so it may be a personal preference.

Dogging

Dogging is a British slang term for sexual acts in public. The act is enjoyed by both exhibitionists and voyeurs. In the 1970s, originally the slang came from the act being done in places where people would walk their dogs. Referring to voyeurs, mostly male, going out with their dogs on a walk in the hope to catch exhibitionist couples having sex outdoors. The walking of the pet would be used as excuse for them being in that area. The act however has been documented to have happened way earlier in the 20th century. In the early 2000s this became a more popular thing due to presentations of the act in the media. In most countries in the world this form of exhibitionism is not legal and one can be prosecuted and fined for doing this. There are some countries where laws about sexual acts in public are more loose, but they are very limited. Hence dogging is in many countries illegal.

Double Penetration

A sexual act where two penises or phallus-shaped objects are inserted at the same time into either an anus or vagina. Most commonly described as simultaneously one anal and one vaginal penetration and shortened to “DP”, there is also Double Vaginal Penetration (shortened to “DVP”) and Double Anal Penetration (shortened to “DAP”). Often considered a group activity for 3 people, some people will also do this on their own using two dildos or with a single person and a dildo. The phallic objects used may be something like a dildo or a strap on. For some this can be related to stretching, and it may be something that is negotiated as an activity during group sex such as during threesomes or foursomes, while swinging, at an orgy, or a gangbang.

Edging

The act of sexually stimulating a person to the point of orgasm, but not going over the edge to actually have an orgasm. This can be done by one’s self, but also together with a partner. This can be considered part of orgasm play. The goal of edging is to maintain the sensation of almost having an orgasm for a longer time and even reach an edge multiple times. There are also people that use this in a dynamic where a s-type person is allowed to edge, but not have an orgasm till a later time where the d-type person allows them to orgasm. For some people edging is known to increase sexual pleasure and researchers so far have not found any negative side effects. Some people claim that it can create “blue balls” and that has a negative effect on the health of a person with testicles, however this is considered a myth.

Face Fucking

Face fucking is a variant of oral sex where the person receiving oral stimulation uses a penis or other phallic object to actively penetrate the givers mouth, similar to throat fucking. The practice seems to originate in ancient Rome, where it was known as Irrumatio and used as a form of degrading punishment for persons of very low social status. In a modern setting, this is practiced between two consenting partners, but the aspects of degradation and punishment may still apply in a playful manner. Since the core act of face fucking consists of penetrating the givers mouth, it is often used to create a scenario where the receiver “uses” the givers mouth, which is surrendered freely.

Facial

When one (or more) person gets sperm (cum) put on their face usually directly from the penis. It is often ‘shot’ into the face at the moment of orgasm. For many the goal of a facial is to bask in the sensation of receiving cum from the person they are with, the reasons for enjoying this vary. The face can be seen as a very sensitive, highly personal and primal place to receive a partner’s cum, since our faces are where we communicate from and are often how we identify one another. The act of a facial can therefore have connotations of someone “claiming” another – where the person that is the source of the cum is ‘marking their territory’ and claiming the other person. Sometimes the goal can also be more light-hearted such as being part of a game to see if the person can sucessfully ejactulate on to their partner’s face from a distance.

Bukkake

An extreme version of a facial. During a bukkake the person receiving cum on their face and head does so from multiple people, usually until they are covered in a lot of cum. This is believed to have originated in Japan in the 1980s and subsequently became popular through porn.

Figging

The use of ginger rhizomes (also known as Ginger Root) as a torture method. A piece of ginger rhizome is cut and shaped like a buttplug or phallic object and placed in the anus, vagina or urethra. The resulting juices of the ginger will give a stinging sensation causing discomfort for the recipient. This play is often combined with canes or other impact implements used to hit recipient so that their muscles will contract and squeeze out more of the ginger juices, resulting in more discomfort. Figging is most commonly done in the anus, as more care and consideration is needed for personal health and hygiene when ginger is used inside a vagina or urethra. After play the sensation can last, but can be reduced by using water or melting ice-cubes on the used orifice.

Fisting

The sexual act of inserting one or more hands into a person’s vagina or anus. In some ways related to stretching it is meant to give a feeling of someone being very deep inside a person and / or a stretching sensation into the vagina or anus. In deep anal fisting some people have been able to reach into the abdomen and create a bulge. In double fisting two hands will gog into one hole, or one in both the vagina and anus at the same time. These are more extreme activities and comes with additional risks.

Risks: There are health risks to fisting when it goes beyond the limits of what the body can normally do which can cause very serious injuries. Including internal tearing and soft tissue damage. Building up slowly and carefully is, therefore, important. In fisting, lube is very much needed to make sure no tearing happens. When fisting, especially when going deeper, the use of gloves is advised to reduce any edges from nails and other parts of the hands. This combined with lots of lube can make this safer and more sustainable.

Footjob

The sexual stimulation of genitals using feet. Usually the feet are bare but they can also be clothed in stockings or socks for a variation in texture. Similar to a handjob but with feet instead of hands. Usually refers to an activity performed on male genitals, however unlike the typical use of handjob people also use this term for stimulating vulvas with feet.

This act can be associated with foot fetish, but can be used as humiliation too by insisting that only the “lowest part” of the giver’s body is considered good enough for the recipient. The relationship with feet can be really complex and this varies from person to person.

Foursome

A sexual group activity for 4 people that is most commonly balanced between female and male participants. Often done by two couples coming together to do this sexual activity and so can be a common practice among swingers. However a foursome is not limited to this configuration, the main difference from the gangbang is that the focus is not on a single person, but shared between people.

Fucklicking

The sexual act of licking a vulva while the vagina has a cock or toy going in and out of it at the same time. There are a few variations and it is sometimes associated with kink activities like cuckolding.

Gangbang

A sexual group activity where the sexual focus of the group of people is directed on to a single person or to a minority of the people involved. Often the group will have at least 4 participants with a single person being the focus, however there are larger groups that may have 2 or more people as a focus for sexual acts. Most gangbangs involve the person being focused on being feminine, however this is not always the case. Sometimes indicated as “FMMMMMM” with the F standing for female and the multiple M’s for the amount of male participants. However there are also situations where female participants are part of the people focusing on a single female. A “reverse gangbang” is considered to be the reverse of a typical gangbang set up where the masculine persons are in the minority and are the focus of feminine people instead.

Gloryhole

A sexual act where there is a wall with a hole between the participants of the activity. In many cases the interaction will be a blowjob, however any sexual act with a penis or phallic shaped object going through the hole is possible. In some cases hands or fingers may also be used through the hole to sexually stimulate the other person. The term Gloryhole refers to the hole in the wall. Originally something that was found in public lavatories by people making holes in the walls between stalls it later evolved to being purpose built in places like sex cinema’s or sex video arcades. It is very much associated with gay male culture as clandestine encounters were previously the norm. The first documented occurrence of a gloryhole comes from 1707 in a court case and it was later used in the mid 1900s as an entrapment method to catch gay men (source). In some cases a gloryhole may be box or booth where multiple people can make use of the same person inside. The anonymity of the interaction is in many cases something that is desired and adds to the experience so there are also specific set ups for this that offer an experience where you will not see the person on the other side at all. Gloryholes can be used by people of all genders. The hole can be used to access mouths, genitals, ass, boobs, and everything. For alternative anonymous interactions people can also use a fuckbox, this is sometimes found in the same places as a gloryhole.

Jerk Off Instructions

This term traditionally refers to when a Dominant person either instructs a submissive or a group of submissives on how to pleasure themselves sexually (i.e. How to jerk off). This can be done in person or virtually through videos and webcam and is often (but not always) a female Dom instructing male submissives. Often abbreviated to JOI.

Masturbating

The act of pleasuring one’s self sexually. This can be done by using one’s hands, but also by using sex toys. The sexual pleasure can be derived from stimulation of the genitals, but also sometimes by stimulating the anus, nipples or other erogenous zones. The act can result in an orgasm, but this is not always case Self stimulation without an orgasm is still considered masturbation. For many the act of masturbation is a private occasion where they indulge in their own pleasure. In other cases people enjoy mutual masturbation with someone else in the room or there have been masturbation circles where people enjoy masturbation together in the presence of a larger group. Methods of masturbation differ from person to person and their particular preferences. As for many this is personal, they do not always share their specific practices with others.

Moresome

Often used as an umbrella term for any sexual group activity with 5 or more people in the group. This can encompass a gangbang as well as an orgy.

Nipple play

Nipple play focuses on stimulation of the nipple or the area around the nipples. This can be done with toys like nipple clamps or with hands or mouth. Some people find that stimulation to their nipples arouses them more, or find that it can increase or heighten their sexual experience. Some people can even orgasm through nipple stimulation, though this is very specific and varies from person to person. Generally most people may enjoy nipple play as part of sensuality between people or as part of other sexual or kinky activities.

Oral

The act of performing sexual stimulation to genitals using ones mouth. This can include sexual activities like a blowjob (when performed on a penis), cunnilingus (when performed on a vagina) or rimming (when performed on an anus). More extreme variants of oral play include deepthroat, face fucking and throat fucking.

Orgasm Play

A form of play that uses orgasms as the focus. Often uses orgasm denial or orgasm overload, in order to make the recipient uncomfortable or overwhelmed and can be used as a torture method. This is often connected to Dominance where the recipient is subject to the desires of the Top.

Orgasm Denial: The recipient can either be physically or mentally prevented from having an orgasm but may also still be stimulated sexually. This can be part of a humiliation play where the recipient is allowed to have sex, but is not allowed to have an orgasm but can also be part of chastity play involving devices like chastity cages. Another common practice is to have the recipient experience a ruined orgasm by allowing them to start to orgasm, but over-stimulate or under stimulate in a way that it does not “complete” itself. Sometime Cock and ball torture or cunt busting are used to create such a denial as well.

Orgasm Overload: The recipient is made to orgasm multiple times to a point that the recipient is likely no longer receiving only pleasure from the orgasm but also other side-effects such as exhaustion or discomfort from over-stimulation. This is often paired with forced orgasms and toys to induce the orgasms. The effect of the Dominance in this type of play can be that the orgasms are no longer for the recipient, but are owned and controlled by the applicant. Sometimes the recipient is considered a toy.

Remote Orgasms: In the world of the internet, where possibilities seem endless, it is now easy (with the right power box, cables and software) to enjoy mutual stimulation with a partner anywhere in the world! It is also easy for you to stimulate them (driving) or for them to stimulate you (riding). This opens up also sorts of scenarios which we will leave to your imagination! The outcome may be a HFO (Hands Free Orgasm) or to hold the genitals ‘on the edge’ almost indefinitely.

Orgy

A sexual group activity where more than 4 people are participating in the group and there is not a specific focus on a single person. Often there is a mix of genders participating in the orgy and there are interactions between different members of the group simultaneously or sequentially. The groups generally come together in a natural way and people can flow in and out of these as they feel like it. However often consent is asked of all participants when a person indicates whether they would like participate in an orgy and what limits they may have. Sexual acts are free to choose within an orgy with the consent of the people involved in the acts. People of all genders and orientations have been welcomed as participants of orgies.

Pegging

The act of using a strap on on an anus of a receiving person. In the more heteronormative use of the term the recipient will be a cis man, however more modern use is that anyone with an anus can be pegged. The term was popularized in 1998 by sex education videos from “bend over boyfriend” where also the terms of “pegger” and “peggee” as Top and Bottom of the act were described. The reversal of traditional gender roles in this act can play an important role in enjoyment for some people e.g: a dominant female may peg a submissive male as an act of domination within a power exchange. A submissive male acting passively and being used sexually by a female is not usually part of traditional cisgender and sexual roles so some people find this exciting. However many people of different genders enjoy pegging simply for the pleasurable sensations.

Queening

The act of cunnilingus where the person receiving will sit on or over the head over the giver. This is related to the umbrella term “face sitting” where the person sits on the face of another person with their genitals. With the face sitting there is also a level of smothering happening and depending on how far you want to go this can also include rimming. There is a connection to dominance where the person sitting on the other person’s face will have control over the person below. This can also be considered as a form of breath play in some cases where the giver could have their breathing limited until the receiver has had their desired pleasure. There are specific pieces of furniture associated with this activity called “queening stools” or “smotherboxes”. This furniture helps the person to sit over a person’s head to make it easier on the legs.

Rimming

This is the practice of working your tongue around a sexual partners anus. The anus is usually cleaned beforehand but not always! This produces a pleasurable experience for both parties but especially for the person being rimmed. Rimming may indicate a special relationship between the person being rimmed and the rimmer.

Sexting

The act of exchanging sexually charged messages via a chat or texting application. Common among people that are newly dating or that have a long distance relationship it is a way to have a sexual connection with someone without having to be in the same place as them. Sometimes accompanied with pictures or small videos the interactions are generally meant as foreplay, but can also be their own full interaction. In some cases chat or texting applications are replaced with video calling application to have more live interaction between people. There are practices where sexting is not done one on one, but also done as a group. These chat channels are open groups where people will role play together with others in a sexual way. Also the nature of the relationship can be different, sometimes sexting happens anonymously, and even long term partners that live together can engage in sexting as a form of foreplay.

Consent: Most of the time people will engage in sexting when all participants are consenting to the activity. However there are many cases where a person will attempt to engage with sexual messaging with a person without first having their consent. This practice would not be considered sexting, just harassment. Please make sure that if you engage with texting in a sexual way with someone that you have their consent to do that beforehand.

Sexual Positions

Terms used to describe different positions that are sometimes used for oral or penetrative sex acts. Sexual positions should ideally be negotiated with your partner as part of ensuring consent.

Spit Roasting

An activity where two (or more) penises or phallic objects are inserted into a recipient’s mouth and either anus or vagina. So called due to the person appearing to be ‘impaled’ like meat on an open-fire roasting spit (note: this doesn’t imply any innate attachment to fire or cannibalism play). Normally performed in a threesome or during other sexual group play activity like a gangbang, but can be done as a couple or solo using toys.

Squirting

Squirting is when a vagina expels fluids of various quantities and compositions from the urethra during sexual arousal and orgasm. A “squirter” is a person with a vagina who can ejaculate, the one who can squirt. The composition and origins of the liquid expelled during squirting is not well defined. The liquid released is usually clear, odorless and colorless and can come out in large quantities. People who enjoy being squirted on also report that it tastes different to urine. Medical professional disagree about whether or not urine is part of the squirt or if some is sometimes released as well another liquid. A recent study by Japanese researchers in 2022 suggests that the liquid could originate in the bladder and may contain urine as well as fluid from the Skene’s glands (female prostate) but a consensus has not yet been reached. Some medical professionals also make a distinction between squirting and female ejaculation. Female ejaculate is thought by some professionals to be the release of a white, milky fluid that contains some of the same components as semen but, again, not all professionals agree and the terms are generally used interchangeably.

Stretching

The activity of stretching the genitalia or anus to create sensations that are arousing to a person. This may also have a mental effect where people feel more accomplished by reaching a certain size or feel a sense of humiliation that something fits. It can be done on your own or with a partner. People do this activity as a form of “training” where they increase the size of the inserted object gradually to achieve a bigger stretch. This training can be done as preparation, but also something that is pleasant as an activity on it’s own. In some dynamics this anal training is used as a form of submission where the s-type person will undergo the training for the D-type person to appease them.

Anal stretching: This is one of the more common forms of stretching and sometimes referred to as “anal training”. In general, anal stretching includes the application of a variety of anal toys with the goal of increasing anal insertion capabilities. In some cases anal stretching is used to accommodate anal fisting or double or triple anal penetration. Also large dildos and deep anal fisting can be part of anal stretching. This kind of stretching can go really far and will take time to achieve.

There are 2 main forms of anal stretching, width stretching and depth stretching:

Anal width stretching: Width stretching usually focusses on the sphincter and rectum, with the goal being to be able to insert toys of increasing girth. This is often where anal plugs are used as, due to their bulbous shape, they can be worn over a longer period of time to get used to a certain size. Once the sphincter and rectum have adapted, plugs of increasing size can be used iterately so the person can slowly get used to the next bigger size. Several physical sensations come into play with this type of stretching. The stretching of the sphincter muscles and the fullness of the rectum can be an erotic experience for many people. Additionally, people with a prostate will experience a mix of pressure and stimulation often associated with a prostate massage – this can become a very intense milking sensation when very large plugs are used. There are also psychological reasons that people enjoy this form of play as having ones sphincter held/forced wide open, mixed with the intense pressure of a completely filled rectum can make people feel very vulnerable, creating a strong feeling of surrender. Over time, very large widths can be reached with years of consistent training. The list below is a rough approximation of what can be expected – but as always: your mileage may vary – listen to your body.

Anal depth stretching: Depth stretching usually focusses on the large intestine as a whole, where the goal is to be able to insert toys of increasing length. The challenge with increasing insertion depth (usually beyond 7″ or 8″) is the natural shape of the large intestine, where after the rectum, a sharp turn into the sigmoid colon happens. There needs to be a very thorough cleansing of the whole colon and extreme caution needs to be applied due to the risk of injury when penetrating into the curve. Very long and flexible dildos are used to achieve bigger insertion depths – the flexibility allows the toy to pass the sigmoid colon. The feeling of an object passing deeply into ones body is pleasurable for practitioners. On a particularly skinny person, the shape of the inserted dildo can be seen through the belly from the outside, creating a visual effect known as a ‘stomach bulge’ that some people like to watch.

Penis stretching or pumping: This can be done with either a penis pump or a penis stretcher where the owner of the penis is looking to be able to have a bigger penis. This is often coupled with a sense of increased masculinity, but is also a sensation people enjoy in the same sense as cock & ball torture. The penis pump is more used to enlarge the penis, where as the stretcher is more often used purely for the stretch sensation. Besides the penis the scrotum can also be stretched. This can be done with weights and in some communities people will wear weighted rings around the base of the scrotum to enable this stretch.

Vaginal Stretching: Vaginal stretching can be enjoyed for a number of reasons e.g: be able to accommodate fisting or double/triple penetration. However it is also an activity where people will enjoy insert increasingly larger dildo’s or objects into the vulva, this is sometimes also referred to as “sizing” or “dilating”. For stretching there are dildo’s that increase in size, but also inflatable ones that use air to increase the size. This can also be done by hand by adding one finger at a time to slowly increase the stretch.

Multiple holes: Some people may stretch both the anus and vagina at the same time. Either by fisting or with a combination of toys. This is sometimes also referred to as “stuffing”.

Penetrative sex & stretching: In some cases people will combine penetrative sex with stretching. This can be done in several ways. Including the person wearing a large strapon, or using a penis sleeve. But alternatively people will also combine fisting with penetrative sex, this practice is sometimes referred to as “hot gloving”.

Risks: There are health risks to stretching when it goes beyond the limits of the body normally does which can cause very serious injuries. Including internal tearing and soft tissue damage. Building up slowly and carefully is, therefore, important. In many stretching practices, lube is very much needed to make sure no tearing happens. A low budget option that some people use are inserting more and more magic markers or other household objects but these come with hygiene risk as they can burst and can result in tearing due to sharp edges. When using a hand, especially when going deeper, the use of gloves is advised to reduce any edges from nails and other parts of the hands. This combined with lots of lube can make this safer and more sustainable.

Swinging

Also referred to as partner-swapping. Swinging is generally a practice between couples who exchange partners for sexual acts but can also include couples who enjoying experiencing sexual acts with someone who is not their partner (so single people are also sometimes included). People who enjoy swinging are often known as swingers. Swinging falls under the umbrella term of Ethical Non-Monogamy which may also be referred to as the Alternative LifeStyle or LS as it is considered a lifestyle choice among many. Many people engaging in the activity say that it gives them more variety in sexual activity and helps them explore their own sexuality as well of that of their partners. Swinging became prominent during the sexual revolution of the 1960s and has been growing in popularity ever since. During the 1980s more awareness of safer sex practices and more facilities have become available for swingers. In the modern age social platforms have been added to that ecosystem and swinging is often considered a subculture on it is own. There are multiple rumors of what symbols swingers use to represent themselves but the only one that seems to be widely accepted is an upside down pineapple. Although it is unclear how it became associated with swinging it is believed to have started gaining more popular use as a symbol for swingers in the 1990s and has been historically associated with offering a friendly welcome and hospitality.

Threesome

A sexual group activity with 3 participants. Often consisting of two people of one gender and one person of another, but all sorts of combinations of 3 people can have have a threesome. Sexual activities are only limited to what is consented between participants. One will sometimes see things like double penetration as one of the activities that are popular in threesomes as that requires two people to focus on one. Sometimes people will ask for FFM, FMF, MFM or MMF in relation to a threesome. This indicates in what kind of configuration a threesome is wanted or being had. The middle letter is the gender of the person considered to be the “focus” of the threesome. So there can be a threesome with two males focusing on the single female (MFM), but also a male and female couple focusing on a single female (FFM). There notations are very binary, but are commonly found to indicate genital preferences (rather than gender preferences) for people engaging in a threesome.

Unicorn hunting – This describes a couple looking for a single female to join their threesome “adventure”. This unicorn is “hunted” (as they can be difficult to track down) and commonly used to fulfill a fantasy for the couple, rather than the focus being on the fantasies of the unicorn.

Throat Fucking

Definition: Throat fucking is a variant of oral sex where a penis or other phallic object is inserted deeply into a partner’s mouth so that the insertion reaches into the giver’s throat or (depending on the length) into the esophagus. The person receiving oral stimulation from the giver takes an active “penetrating” role and is control of the act where as the giver is more passive. Often the person receiving the oral stimulation will thrust into the throat to simulate fucking. Similar to Deepthroat and face fucking.

General: Even though there exist many different ways to perform the act of throat fucking, it is generally conceived as one of the more extreme oral practices. The combination of deepthroat and face fucking is challenging and takes a lot of practice to endure smoothly. Even when the giver is experienced, the unpredictable nature of the penetration makes it very hard to control the gag reflex. Penetration speed and force can vary heavily, for example depending on the type of session, the overall mood, and the experience of the giver. It can range from very slow, loving and tender up to merciless piston-like ramming that purposefully causes the giver to struggle.

Aspects Throat fucking can be involved in many aspects of play – depending on what people have consented to enjoy together.

Gagging: It can be a kink of its own to play with another persons gag reflex, for both participants. This can be lived fully during a throat fucking session, since gagging is usually unavoidable for most givers in that situation. Watching the giver struggle, retch and heave does not only provide visual and auditory stimulation to the receiver, the clenching throat muscles add to the physical stimulation of the whole penis shaft. In addition, big amounts of saliva are produced while gagging. Sometimes, when the giver gags very hard, great amounts of slime are ejected in a motion similar to vomiting. The fact of making somebody suffer in that way and the unavoidable saliva mess can be very arousing to the receiver and the giver.
Bondage: Since throat fucking often already implies that the giver is in a passive role, allowing the receiver to freely penetrate their throat, this fact can be made more obvious by using bondage on the giver to make them totally helpless, making it impossible to escape. Bondage during throat fucking is sometimes used during a conditioning phase so that the giver can get into the passive “surrendering” role more easily.
Breath play: When the receiver’s penis is long enough to reach the givers esophagus, breathing is not possible, combining throat fucking with breath play. Leaving the penis fully inserted for a longer duration of time forces the giver to hold their breath, which – combined with an inevitable fight against the gag reflex – can be played with. The receiver staying down the giver’s throat for as long as possible to purposefully cause a lack of oxygen with the giver and provide a rush of adrenaline can be a game played that combines breath play and throat fucking.
Objectification: Throat fucking can be mixed with objectification – where the giver is reduced to a piece of throat meat, to be used completely freely and without any mercy. The giver’s main task during objectification is often to endure any and all predicaments, no matter how hard they may struggle. This can be a “hardcore” form of play and may need a great amount of mental training and strength on the giver’s side to surrender in such a complete way.
Vomiting: In the most extreme cases, being subjugated to extended and excessive throat fucking and gagging can lead to vomiting which some people find erotic.

Suggested Positions: A list of sexual positions can never be complete, so this is just a very small selection of “throat fucking friendly” positions:

Kneeling: The giver kneels in front of the receiver. Rather challenging to maintain due to a non-ideal throat/penis angle.
Hanging head: The “classic” throat fucking position. Throat/penis angle is ideal and the giver can relax.
69: Throat fucking in 69 position is rather challenging due to a bad throat/penis angle.
Bow pose: The giver lies on their belly and grabs their ankles. While the penis/throat angle is good, it can be quite challenging to hold this position – something which can be used as a predicament game of its own. The aspect of the giver willingly rendering themselves helpless can be arousing for both parties.

Safety Info:

Due to the nature of the act, a spoken safe word cannot be used. A non-verbal safe word (such as tapping out) often needs to be established in order to provide a safe way for partner’s to check in – especially during very rough or extreme forms of throat fucking.
Since the throat and esophagus are very sensitive and delicate body parts, the receiver needs to be very mindful not to cause injuries. Proper lubrication either with saliva or an external lubricant is needed.
Additionally, the esophagus is not used to insertions larger than a diameter/thickness of 1″ (2.5 cm) so it usually need exercising and time to stretch until the penis or phallic object fits without damaging the tissue.

Triple Penetration

Similar to double penetration, triple penetration is where three penises or phallic objects like dildo’s or strap ons are inserted into a person’s vagina or anus. This may mean the vagina or anus receives all three items or one body cavity receives two items and the other cavity receives one item simultaneously. Shortened to TP, TVP for triple vaginal penetration, and TAP for triple anal penetration. For solo or duo play this may be part of enjoying stretching for the recipient. When doing this with three people providing penetration there are some logistics to be considered in terms of body positioning and lubrication so because of this it is more commonly seen in porn than real life but can still be found as a negotiated activity during orgies or gangbangs. Many people see this as an achievement or a ‘bucket list’ item.

Urethral Sounding

Urethral sounding involves inserting a sound – a long, thin rod, typically made of surgical steel – into your urethral opening.

Wand Teasing

Being tied up & being teased by a furiously buzzing wand vibrator! This is considered part of edging play.