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hypnosis

Last week you had a question and talked about hypnosis. I was curious can you give more details on the kind of imagery or scenarios used during erotic hypnosis?

First, thank you for the question, reading my blog, and now on to an answer to your question. Exploring the realm of erotic hypnosis involves delving into a variety of imagery and scenarios crafted to induce a heightened state of suggestibility and arousal in the participant. This practice often utilizes vivid sensory descriptions and evocative narratives to stimulate the mind and enhance receptivity to hypnotic suggestions.

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I’m a sub and my Dom’s been super stressed from work. I really want to help and comfort him, but I’m not sure how. Any advice?

In situations where your dominant partner is experiencing heightened stress from work, your role as a submissive can be a vital source of support and comfort. Here are a few suggestions that might help:

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Some rando just messaged me saying my sub is simping for other doms and sending pics. Should I do a phone check?

Thank you for raising this very personal and important question and when faced with the unsettling prospect of a third party informing you that your submissive may be engaging in activities with other dominants behind your back, it raises significant concerns within the dynamics of a dominant-submissive relationship. This situation necessitates a thoughtful and deliberate approach to address the issues at hand.

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erotic hypnosis

What are some of the techniques used for erotic/recreational hypnosis & how do you safely incorporate into a scene?

Thank you for your question about the techniques used for erotic and recreational hypnosis in BDSM and how to safely incorporate it into a scene. Erotic and recreational hypnosis is a fascinating aspect of  BDSM and kink, offering unique ways to enhance pleasure, intimacy, and power dynamics within a scene. When performed with care, understanding, and respect for safety, it can be a highly rewarding experience. To answer the question, we will dive into an explanation of the techniques used in erotic hypnosis, guidelines for safely incorporating it into a scene, and a discussion of potential risks and dangers.

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rebellious submissive

Here’s another: What happens if you’re a submissive but you hate being told what to do, aka acts of service. What if you’re extremely rebellious and refuse to listen to any one of higher authority? This lifestyle seems kinda iffy to me, but seeing this blog helps. As a person who hates being told what to do, I’m not sure so I’m fit for this lifestyle. Any ideas?

Thank you for the kind words and your question. Being submissive does not mean being submissive to life in general. It is about consensually choosing to submit to a person or persons within a structured and negotiated relationship. This distinction is important because it highlights that submission is not about weakness or general compliance but about willingly entering into a dynamic where you feel safe and fulfilled.

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unhealthy dependency

How do you help your sub reach their full potential without causing unhealthy dependency?

The relationship between a dominant and a submissive often hinges on a delicate balance of control and support. Helping a submissive reach their full potential while avoiding unhealthy dependency requires a thoughtful and intentional approach. This involves fostering personal growth, encouraging autonomy, and maintaining clear boundaries.

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non-sexual bonds

Looking for real connections, not situationships. Are strong non-sexual bonds still a thing in BDSM?

Many assume that sexual activities are the core of lifestyle connections. However, the reality is far more nuanced. Strong non-sexual bonds are still very much a part of the BDSM community, reflecting a rich tapestry of connections built on power dynamics, trust, and mutual respect.

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No shade, but have you ever tried being on the other side?

When I first began exploring the BDSM community as a newcomer, many of the experienced leaders and mentors strongly recommended starting from the bottom up. This approach involves beginning by experiencing things as a submissive or bottom before progressing to a dominant or top role. The rationale behind this is to develop a comprehensive understanding of the dynamics and sensations from the perspective of a submissive.

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soft limits

How does a Dom enable their sub to push past their soft limits consensually?

The dynamic between dominant and submissive is built on a foundation of trust, open communication, consent, and mutual respect. Pushing past soft limits, boundaries that one may be hesitant about but is potentially willing to explore, requires careful, consensual navigation by the dominant. The process involves several key steps to ensure the submissive’s well-being and maintain the integrity of the relationship.

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