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Finding Freedom in Task Completion

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Finding Freedom in Task Completion

Ursula K. Le Guin is attributed to the famous quote: “The creative adult is the child who has survived.”

There is a lot of truth to that since creativity is something that is not fostered in school today (but this is a discussion for another day). When it comes to D/S, there are those dominants who want things done in certain ways and will give their submissive very detailed instructions. Now, some tasks do require a detailed recipe, but the overwhelming majority of tasks do not require such itemization. When it comes to 99% of the tasks requested, the submissive will not be given a recipe, but the dominant will leave how it is done up to them.

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Fetish Friday: Fabulous Furries

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Fetish Friday: Fabulously Furries

The combination of furries and BDSM offers a unique way to explore identity and fantasy. Furries are part of a subculture that enjoys anthropomorphic characters, which are animals with human traits. When integrating BDSM practices, this combination introduces a creative and expressive dimension to both interests. This blend highlights the imaginative aspects of BDSM and the versatility of personal expression.

The furry community emerged prominently in the late 20th century, involving the creation and enjoyment of characters that merge animal and human features. Participants often engage in role-playing, art, and social gatherings centered around their fursonas, or animal personas. Incorporating BDSM into this context allows for an innovative way to explore desires and fantasies. This fusion creates a rich and dynamic experience, combining the excitement of both furry and BDSM elements.

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Pointe Aux Barques lighthouse, Lake Huron, Michigan

It Is Not Darkness Rather It Is A Beacon Of Light

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It Is Not Darkness Rather It Is A Beacon Of Light

So often we see postings about kink which is referred to as someone’s darkness and the imagery associated with it is often shot in dark, dank, or dilapidated places. However, that is not the case. One is not a dark person; quite the contrary, one is happy, upbeat, positive, and looking forward to tomorrow rather than looking back. It is time that the notion that BDSM is a ‘dark art’ (sorry Professor Snape) is challenged and we allow our brightness to shine with the understanding that both the dominant and submissive have equally important beacons to illuminate.

Before talking about how dominants and submissives provide a special glow to each other, it is important to talk about people generally. Most people, from kinky to vanilla, are bright and colorful. Yes, there are those out there who are going through a dark time from depression, the loss of a trusted friend/loved one, or just one of life’s many trials but in general, there are more positive, future-focused people than negative Nellies. Every day people around the world wake up and choose to be happy rather than dark or down. Remember to choose to surround yourself with those that choose to be illuminating and when a friend’s light is dimming, be a friend, and partner with them to recharge their beacon.

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Fetish Friday: Caged And Confined

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Fetish Friday: Caged And Confined

Caging and confinement in BDSM involve physical and psychological restrictions that offer unique ways to explore submission and control. These practices enhance sensory experiences and deepen emotional connections between participants. The appeal of these dynamics becomes evident when examining their historical roots and contemporary applications. Understanding these elements reveals the significance of caging and confinement within the BDSM community.

Historically, confinement was used for punishment and control, with devices like stocks and pillories serving as public punishments. These historical practices reflect broader societal attitudes toward restraint and control. In the context of BDSM, these concepts have evolved into consensual practices focused on pleasure rather than punishment. Modern caging and confinement aim to create safe, enjoyable environments where control and restriction are explored consensually.

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Teds’ Talk, A Plush Prospective On: Aftercare

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Hey there, fuzzy friends! I am Teds, a life-size teddy bear with a penchant for tea parties, Lifetime movies, and the occasional glass of wine. While I might not be as wild as Ted from the movies, my adventures are no less intriguing. As a bear who can come to life for those who believe in such wonders, I get to see and experience a lot of what goes on behind closed doors, especially in the world of kink and BDSM.

You might be wondering what a teddy bear like me has to say about such things. Well, it turns out, I have quite a bit to share. My human, a wonderful submissive who also is a little and middle, involves me in many delightful escapades. When I say involves me, that normally means I get moved off the bed but I still like to watch. It is not always easy, though. Sometimes I see and hear things that would make most stuffies hide under a squeaking bed. But not me, I am here to help and support my human in all their adventures even the kinktastic ones.

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Up The Punishment Platte With A Paddle

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Up The Punishment Platte With A Paddle

Even a quick scroll through online platforms reveals a ton of spanking-related content, showing just how big a role it plays in the world of BDSM. Sure, spanking can spice up roleplay and amp up the power dynamics in D/S relationships. But when it comes to using it as a form of punishment, things get real deep, real quick. It is worth taking a step back and thinking about what that means for everyone involved.

The whole deal with corrective spanking is pretty complex. Some people in the submissive role get a real kick out of it, whether it is the physical sensation or the mental side of things. But not everyone is on board with it as a form of punishment. Today, we will dive in recognizing that everyone has their own views on spanking, especially for punishment.

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Fort Gratiot Lighthouse, Mi.

The Lighthouse’s Passionate Storm

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Welcome to the soft, dimly lit world of our lighthouse adventure. The cool fall air greets us as we stand hand in hand, your fingers gently entwined with mine. I lead you across the deep green, well-maintained lawn, the blades of grass whispering beneath our feet. The sun dips below the horizon, painting the sky in hues of twilight, as the twinkling lights of the keeper’s quarters begin to glow. We walk in silence, the only sounds are the soft rustle of leaves and our steady breaths.

We arrive at the door of the tower. Slowly, I reach into my pocket, the fabric rustling softly, and retrieve the key. The heavy oak door creaks open, revealing its secrets with a low, ancient groan. The dimly lit entryway is cozy, just big enough for the two of us. I give you a gentle push, just a light pressure on your lower back, guiding you forward into the softly illuminated foyer. The door closes behind us with a satisfying thunk that echoes off the white brick walls, sealing us into our little world.

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Fetish Friday – Sissification

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Sissification, finds its roots in a complex history intertwining with concepts of gender expression and power dynamics. Originating from feminization fantasies, sissification involves the transformation of an individual, typically male, into a submissive and often stereotypically feminine persona. This transformation can include attire, behavior, and psychological elements that emphasize vulnerability and subservience. The appeal of sissification lies in its exploration of gender roles, power exchange, and erotic humiliation, all within a consensual context.

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Collar Your Confidence

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Self-collaring is a significant practice in BDSM where individuals wear a collar to symbolize their personal commitment and identity. Unlike traditional collars, which often denote dynamics between a dominant and submissive partner, self-collaring focuses on personal dedication and self-expression. It highlights an individual’s journey and values within the BDSM community, making it a unique form of self-identification.

Self-collaring is defined by the individual choosing to wear a collar as a symbol of their own values and commitment, independent of any partner’s involvement. This practice allows for a personal expression of one’s role and alignment with BDSM principles, serving as a powerful emblem of self-discipline and personal growth. The collar represents an individual’s internal journey, marking milestones and affirming their dedication to their own path within the lifestyle. It’s a meaningful way to publicly affirm one’s personal beliefs and commitment to BDSM.

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