Edward Volkl

Coffee Aficionado, Podcaster, Poet, Writer, Advocate Of Everything Kinktastic & Sharing My Passion In A Positive, Uplifting Space.

Fantasy Or Interested: BDSM "toys" including ball gag, nipple clamps, cuffs, and collar. All in red.

Fantasy Or Genuinely Interested?

The BDSM lifestyle is complex and it is essential to differentiate between those who are genuinely interested in living the BDSM lifestyle and those who may only be engaging in a fantasy or online role-play. Today, we will explore the red flags that indicate someone may not be genuinely into the lifestyle and the green flags that suggest a sincere interest in BDSM.

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Black boots for Fetish Friday's Bootblacking.

Fetish Friday: Bootblacking

Bootblacking is a ritualistic act often associated with submission and devotion, where a submissive cleans and polishes the footwear of a dominant. The act involves not only a physical cleaning but also a psychological exchange, as it reinforces the power dynamic between the two individuals. For the submissive, it is an opportunity to demonstrate care, attention, and respect, while for the dominant, it solidifies their position of authority. Despite its roots in older traditions, bootblacking continues to hold meaning for those who embrace it in their BDSM practices.

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A peaceful scene with candles and incents for the post dominants need aftercare.

Aftercare For Dominants

Aftercare is an essential part of BDSM that helps individuals transition from the intensity of a scene back to everyday life. It often involves emotional and physical support tailored to the needs of those involved. Many people associate aftercare solely with submissives, assuming they are the only ones who require comfort and care after a scene. This assumption overlooks the reality that dominants also experience emotional and physical strain. Dominants, like submissives, can benefit greatly from aftercare to process their experiences and restore balance. Recognizing this need challenges stereotypes and promotes healthier dynamics within the BDSM community.

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A red tickling feather on a black background.

Fetish Friday: Tickling

This week on Fetish Friday, the fascinating history of tickling and its role in power dynamics is explored. In ancient times, tickling was not just for amusement; it often carried deep symbolic meaning tied to submission, dominance, and control. Cultures around the world, from ancient Rome to Indigenous Americas, utilized tickling in ways that connected it to rituals of vulnerability and power. These practices continue to echo in modern BDSM, where tickling serves as a unique tool for exploring consensual dynamics.

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Various adult toys for the Fetish Friday article Forced Orgasms.

Fetish Friday: Forced Orgasms

Forced orgasms and orgasmic torture are intense practices where the dominant partner consensually controls the submissive’s body to induce orgasms, often through methods designed to heighten sensations. During this kind of play, control and pleasure are tightly woven, with the dominant guiding the submissive through overstimulation, creating a unique blend of pain and pleasure. While the submissive may experience resistance, this tension is carefully managed, always within the framework of revokable consent and communication. This week Fetish Friday explores the psychological depth and physical sensations involved in these practices, revealing the intricacies of power and trust in a controlled yet deeply pleasurable experience.

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The last American exit, where ghosts live.

Ghosts

Out here, we are the edge of somewhere and nowhere,
The last stretch of stateside before the river runs south.
This town clings to the border like it forgot where to go,
Like we are all half-waiting to cross over, but never quite do.
The highway bridges at the water’s edge,
Where only the brave or the lost take that final step.

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