No shade, but have you ever tried being on the other side?

When I first began exploring the BDSM community as a newcomer, many of the experienced leaders and mentors strongly recommended starting from the bottom up. This approach involves beginning by experiencing things as a submissive or bottom before progressing to a dominant or top role. The rationale behind this is to develop a comprehensive understanding of the dynamics and sensations from the perspective of a submissive.

Although I have never fully embraced the role of a submissive myself, this introductory guidance has provided me with valuable insights. By witnessing and, to a certain extent, participating in activities as a bottom, I have gained a better appreciation of what submissives may experience. This understanding, as much as a dominant can attain, has been instrumental in shaping my approach and empathy within the lifestyle.