Hey, so I’m kinda new to the whole kink scene, and I think I might be more on the submissive side. There’s someone I’m really into, but I’m pretty shy and curious about how to approach them. Is it okay for a submissive to make the first move?
Hello there! It is awesome that you are exploring the kink scene and discovering your submissive side. Taking those initial steps can be anxiety-inducing however, do not let being submissive stop you from initiating contact or expressing interest.
One strategy could be to begin with a compliment, something genuine that you admire about them or find appealing. It is a straightforward method to break the ice and convey your interest. Subsequently, you might consider posing open-ended questions to stimulate conversation. This approach can alleviate some of the pressure on you to sustain the dialogue while also demonstrating your genuine interest in getting to know them.
If you share any mutual interests or hobbies, that is another effective way to ignite a conversation. It is simpler to discuss topics you both enjoy, and it can facilitate a connection. Additionally, do not hesitate to incorporate humor! A well-timed joke or playful remark can help alleviate tension and foster a more relaxed atmosphere.
Given your newness to the kink scene, you could also express your curiosity about it as a conversation starter. Perhaps mention that you have been exploring it and are keen on learning more. It is a subject likely to capture their interest and could lead to engaging discussions. Plus the kink question can help illuminate their lifestyle intentions as if they only want to engage with you when talking about kink or sex rather than getting to know you as a person it is a safe bet that is all they want from you, so it would be best to pass them by.
Remember, it is acceptable to proceed at your own pace, and feeling nervous when reaching out to someone you are interested in is normal. Simply be sincere, respectful, and open to the conversation unfolding organically.
You have got this!