Being a single and unapologetic dominant in the BDSM lifestyle has often drawn criticism from those who claim that a “real” or “true” dominant would unquestionably have a submissive. To those who hold this narrow view, let me set the record straight: my singlehood is not a weakness; it is a powerful statement of empowerment.
Singlehood allows me to embrace my autonomy fully and unapologetically. Every day, I choose joy, explore my passions, and forge my path without being shackled by someone else’s needs or expectations. This freedom is not a compromise but a conscious decision to prioritize my growth and happiness above societal or community expectations. My dominance is not validated by having a submissive; it is demonstrated through my actions, integrity, and relentless pursuit of personal excellence.
My future is an open canvas, waiting for me to paint it with the experiences and connections I deem worthy. Yes, I hope to have someone extraordinary join me on this journey, but I refuse to settle for anyone who does not meet my standards. Settling is for those who lack the courage to stand alone, for those who fear solitude more than they value their worth. I am not one of those people.
To those who question my legitimacy as a dominant because I choose to be single and unapologetic: your opinions are irrelevant. My dominance is self-evident, rooted in my confidence, strength, and unwavering commitment to living authentically. I do not need a submissive to prove my dominance; my life and choices are proof enough. So, keep your narrow-minded judgments to yourself. I am dominant, and my singlehood is a testament to my empowerment, not a weakness.