What are your tips for the subs that love intense spankings to the point of dark bruising?
When it comes to intense spankings that lead to dark bruising, it is crucial to prioritize safety and communication. For those who enjoy this level of intensity, there are several important considerations to keep in mind.
Have you been following the allegations against Neil Gaiman? What is your opinion on it and the anti BDSM rhetoric of the publication (Tortoise Media) that reported it?
Until you asked, I had not heard of Neil Gaiman, nor am I a consumer of Tortoise Media. While I cannot speak to the allegations or the individual in question, I can address the broader issue of how the media represents BDSM.
What if I don’t want to do something but my partner does? They want to tie me onto the bed but that scares me and I’m not willing to budge on that. Any advice?
If you do not want to do something, you do not have to do it. It is essential to respect your own boundaries and ensure that your partner respects them as well. When your partner wants to tie you to the bed, but this scares you and you are not willing to budge, clear communication and mutual respect become crucial.
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I suffered an accidental injury while doing day to day chores. Although I was momentarily happy, I started feeling dizzy and weak; had to replenish myself by drinking water, turning the experience unpleasant. It made me reflect that even though I could see the appeal of being a sub, how should I prepare myself before a session? What if this happens during a session?
Thank you for the question and to prepare yourself for a BDSM session, especially if you are exploring submission, it is essential to consider several guidelines that ensure both safety and enjoyment.
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I played with someone for the first time & I am trying to determine if I should chalk up my misgivings to “drop” or if I did too much too soon? I am feeling over exposed. We played online, but I still feel like I may have over shared too much of my body. During the scene, I was very eager to please and felt happy & safe. But now the walk of shame is bringing shade to my sunshine.
Can you talk this girl down from the ledge?
Thanks for everything!
First, it is important to recognize that your feelings are valid. Engaging in a scene, even online, can bring up a lot of emotions. You mentioned feeling eager to please, happy, and safe during the scene, which is great. However, the feelings you are experiencing now what you describe as a “walk of shame” are also quite common and worth exploring.
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If you are playing online. should you still require aftercare & check ins?
Thank you!
Aftercare and check-ins can be important in online play, but their necessity depends on the context of the interaction. This holds for a few key reasons.
First, discussing the dynamics of long-distance relationships in BDSM, many who are in lasting LDRs engage in online play with aftercare and check-ins as an integral part of maintaining and building the kinky side of their relationship. In these situations, aftercare and check-ins are already developed and expected practices. They help partners feel connected and cared for, even when they are physically apart.
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The question to consider today is can one be kinky, be kind, or perhaps be kind of kinky? In the
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BDSM
Fetishism and fashion have interwoven throughout history, particularly in BDSM. This amalgamation of fashion and fetishism has evolved over centuries, reflecting societal attitudes, cultural shifts, and individual preferences.
The origins of fetishism in fashion trace back to ancient civilizations, where certain objects or materials were imbued with supernatural or spiritual significance. These items were often incorporated into clothing or accessories as symbols of power, protection, or fertility. In BDSM, the concept of fetishism extends beyond mere adornment to encompass specific objects or materials that elicit sexual arousal or pleasure.
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BDSM, Fetish Friday
In shadows cast by harsh critique’s light,
Whispers of judgment, silent and slight,
Yet in self-love, I find my might.
Embracing truths, unapologetically free,
My essence, not confined to others’ decree,
In defiance, I blossom, proud as can be.
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